When I thought of what a balanced life means to me, I get a little overwhelmed. The reason for this is that I felt that everything in my life had to be in equilibrium at the same time! Once, I allowed myself to start thinking of balance as finding ‘harmony’ rather than equilibrium, across all sectors of my life; health, family/friends; work and self-care, it enabled reaching ‘balance’ more manageable.
'What do I mean by this?' you may ask. Well, I mean that sometimes you have certain areas of your life that require more priority than others and hence you need to spend more time and energy focusing on those areas; and that’s OK, because hopefully, you are not neglecting anything you’re just prioritising. Hence, giving yourself permission to find harmony/balance based on your current situation is important so you don’t feel overwhelmed. For example, instead of attending the gym 5 times a week, only attending 3 because during a particular week your child was unwell and your priority was to stay home and look after him/her. Now, the danger comes when the priority area takes over all the other areas, then you may feel out of balance and it may have impacts on your physical, emotional and psychological wellbeing. So, what’s the secret?
Having a ‘balanced’ life needs to be an ongoing lifestyle choice, not a goal/destination. By developing a lifestyle that resonates with you, which is sustainable and realistic, life can automatically become more balanced. For example, if you introduce a yoga practice even once a week into your life, it will assist you in balancing your physical body, your mind and your spirit. If your body, mind and spirit feel ‘balanced’, you have more energy, you are able to think clearer and it will enhance your awareness. This, in turn, will assist you in making informed choices, manage stressful situations and prioritise what matters.
Some of the questions you may like to ask yourself in order to create your desired ‘balanced lifestyle’ are:
What does an ideal balanced lifestyle look like to you?
In reality what does a typical week look like for you? (What are your current priorities?)